Why your audience isn’t sticking around (and how to fix it)

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People don’t stick around because they like your niche. They stick around because your content reinforces who they think they are, or who they want to become.🌟

Or, at least, that’s the idea behind social identity theory. This concept explains why humans love forming tribes and even go so far as to defend their favorite creators in the comment section. 🤺

The creators with the strongest communities don’t just teach things. They make people feel understood. If you can do that, your people will stop behaving like “consumers” and actually become a community.

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Look, most audiences are transactional.

Someone finds your content because of a good hook, saves a carousel, binge-watches a few videos, and then… vanishes into the internet void.🌌

It’s easy to blame the algorithm for this (and sometimes that’s fair), but often there’s something deeper happening:

Your audience liked your content, but they didn’t connect with it. There’s a huge difference between “This creator posts useful stuff,” and “This creator gets me.”

If you’ve ever wondered how some creators survive platform changes, bad launches, and months of inconsistent posting, this is a big reason why.

They’ve built identity — not just an audience.

Back in the 1970s, psychologist Henri Tajfel noticed something strange: Humans form groups easily. Like, alarmingly easily.🧑‍🤝‍🧑

In one experiment, people were randomly assigned to meaningless groups based on trivial criteria. Despite the groups being completely made up, participants still started favoring “their” group. If you’ve watched the latest season of Survivor, you can see social identity theory play out any time they have to merge tribes. 🥥🏝️

Humans like belonging. We naturally organize ourselves into identities like:

Without realizing it, we consume a lot more than information on social media. We also join communities that match our identity.

As a creator, you can expect followers to move on from topics and trends, but identities stick. And if your content supports that identity, they’ll probably keep following you, too.👸🏽

It’s counterintuitive, but your audience probably doesn’t want information nearly as much as they want reinforcement. 🤷‍♀️They want help becoming the kind of person they already hope they are.

That’s why creators who repeat the same core message tend to grow stronger communities. This is called identity reinforcement, and it’s a huge part of social identity theory.

So, instead of asking yourself, “What content should I make this week?”, it’s better to ask, “What belief should I reinforce?” 💭 It might sound a little woo-woo, but pausing posting can change the entire direction of your content.

Instead of defining your audience by demographics or niche, define them by values. I call this the values ladder.

Instead of making yet another “here are my favorite productivity apps” post, the value ladder helps you go deeper. 🪜

With the values ladder, a more thoughtful topic would be something like, “How ambitious people accidentally build lives they secretly hate.” Or “ Here’s the reason your productivity system keeps failing (and it’s not discipline).”

See the difference? One piece of content teaches tactics, but the others reflect identity, and that gets more engagement.

If you’ve ever vented work frustrations with a coworker, you know nothing bonds people like sharing their frustrations. 💢

According to social identity theory, humans need to have a common enemy (or shared annoyance) because it clarifies who we don’t want to be.

I’m not saying you need burning pitchforks here. That can actually backfire and create a super toxic community that’s no fun.

Every strong creator community has a “friendly enemy,” whether it’s:

Your “enemies” are usually the status quo or an unspoken frustration that a lot of people share. 😤

The key is to make this complaining productive. Your goal is to give followers clarity, not a bunch of cynicism.

Your followers might show up at first to get information, but a lot of them stay for rituals, whether that’s:

Ideally, rituals should be either daily or weekly. 📅 If they’re monthly or quarterly, your followers won’t remember them much, and the goal is to become a part of their routine.

If you’ve been a creator for several years, you’ve changed over time. But if you change too much, your followers will leave.

For example, a vegan influencer will lose a lot of followers if they start posting about their new carnivore diet. 🥩

It’s okay if you want to make a change, but understand that a big evolution in your identity will lose you followers. That’s especially true if you make big changes suddenly.

Social identity theory loves social contracts🤝🏽, which are unspoken agreements you have with other people. When you change suddenly, you “breach” the contract with your followers.

That isn’t always a deal-breaker, but you need to handle it carefully. The fix is to bring your followers into the journey and explain your thinking. Not everyone will stick around, but followers are surprisingly willing to grow with creators they trust. 🌱

Have you ever really dug into your own identity? This is big stuff, but it has a profound impact on your career as a creator.

This week, write down three columns:

For example:

Next, look for patterns. If most of your content is in column one, you’re mostly just teaching. But if your content connects more to columns two and three, you’re building something people identify with.

If you’re mostly in column one: this week, make one piece of content built around a belief instead of a tip.

For example, instead of saying, “Here’s 5 ways to grow your newsletter,” try, “Here’s why smart creators burn themselves out chasing growth.” People show up for the tips, but they stay for content that makes them feel seen.

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